Hi everyone, I have been on a sabbatical from writing for some time now. Hope you missed me or maybe you didn’t…..but I did miss my readers…So, here I go again…
Recently, I read a beautiful story. I am sure it’s an old story but for me it was new…
First the story…
A father said to his son: You graduated with honours, here is a car that I acquired many years ago … it is several years old. But before I give it to you, take it to the used car lot downtown and tell them I want to sell it and see how much they offer you.
The son went to the used car lot, returned to his father and said, “They offered me $ 1,000 because it looks very worn out.”
The father said, “Take him to the pawnshop.”
The son went to the pawnshop, returned to his father and said, “The pawnshop offered $ 100 because it was a very old car.”
The father asked his son to go to a car club and show them the car.
The son took the car to the club, returned and told his father: “Some people in the club offered $ 100,000 for it, since it is an iconic car and sought after by many.
The father said to his son, “I wanted you to know that the right place values you the right way.” … If you are not valued, do not be angry, it means that you are in the wrong place. Those who know your value are those who appreciate you, and never stay in a place where no one sees your value
While this is a beautiful story from an emotional and motivational point of view, this is also true from a scientific point of view.
Many studies have shown and have also challenged the general definition of Intelligence.
For a long time, people used to think of IQ as the measure of a person’s intelligence.
Then later came EQ, which tried to establish a person’s ability to be well adjusted and successful in life by recognizing their own emotions and those of others, differentiate between different feelings, put them in appropriate slots in the mind, and then use this emotional information to guide thinking, behaviour and manage emotions to adjust to the outside environment to achieve one’s goals.
Well, confused? Don’t worry, most of us are….converting many of us into money-making fodder for training/coaching institutes….which supposedly measure and then “improve” our IQ and EQ.
After a lot of researches and studies, the scientists have finally arrived at a big AAha moment…
It has now been understood and widely acknowledged that EVERYONE is intelligent….sounds crazy…right. But hang on.
The findings can be summarised in one line as something like this:
“Everyone in this world is intelligent; it is a question of in which area”.
Let me elaborate by first giving some examples and then further expand on the above statement. Nothing esoteric because then the point will be lost:
- We think that scientists and academics are very “brainy”, make them a bank teller and see what happens.
- Put a NASA Engineer to do Telemarketing and let’s watch how many sales the Engineer closes
- Ask a Doctor to sing…..see for yourself….
I can go on but I am sure you are beginning to get the drift.
For some reason, we all tend to believe that everything is that is out of our reach is automatically intelligent…the problem is with our perception of intelligence is skewed.
While there are many definitions of intelligence but broadly they are divided into the following 9 abilities that make us intelligent beings.
Now, it has been seen that unless a person has some disease everyone is good in one or more of the above to varying degrees.
Therefore, when you see, meet or talk about someone and call him dumb…..maybe you are just being dumb yourself…
Err…what I mean is that you are NOT dumb but are BEING DUMB….:-). Hope you have understood.
But in a more serious vein, there is an important lesson for all of us:
- for the ever anxious parents: If your Kid does not score the highest marks or is not in the top 5 % of the class, it does not mean that he is unintelligent, maybe his intelligence lies elsewhere. Look for that and let him excel in that line
- For the employees: If some of your employees are not performing to their “potential”, don’t label them as bad. Look for the areas in which they are good and “re-assign” them after proper training
- Appreciate a good maid, a good janitor…realise that it is not easy for everyone to be a good maid and/or janitor.
- Realise that every work is important and anyone who can do his/her work well needs to be valued as such.
- Don’t label some “careers” as better than others…while it may be tough to run a business, it may be even tougher to be a housewife.
I could go on….but I am sure you are getting the drift…
Intelligence is not a reflection of the ability to earn money; it has nothing to do with being popular or well-known. Intelligence and capability are far bigger than all this.
I am sure, if the richest man in the world is asked to cook a meal for a dinner party he/she will be a disaster…..
You know why because his intelligence is limited to the ability to make money not to cook…
Now, what is the bottom line of this article…
- Respect and Value people’s intelligence for the areas it is in, don’t force-fit them into only a few moulds. Based on our own biases…
- And if you are the person, evaluate where you are good at and make a life in that area….again don’t force-fit yourself because the “society” wants it that way.
Cheers to this world full of intelligent beings….
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